The Breakfast Club is an amazing movie. Produced in 1985, it is about a group of five individuals from Illinois High School who find themselves in detention for different reasons. They all come from different groups, including a princess, an athlete, a brain, a criminal, and a basket case. Eventually they bond with each other. When you are stuck in a room with 4 other people for 8 hours with nothing else to do but talk, you form bonds. This movie is another example of our 'Being Kind' post series, which explains how everyone you meet has something that they are working through. Anyways, the movie doesn't have a perfect disney ending; the characters don't go on to live happily ever after, or stay friends for life, but they share a common bond in "The Breakfast Club". If you have not yet seen this movie, please do yourself a favor and go watch it.
We notice trends form this movie in our lives. At our school, pretty much everyone is nice to everyone else, but depending on the grade, you can definitely pick out the "cool kids", or the "nerds", or the "theater geeks" or "jocks". The two of us pretty much span the board and are friends with everyone, from fifth graders to middle school teachers. Like in the movie, sometimes it is really hard for people to break out of their groups and get to know other people. Our groups make us feel safe. We support our group, and our group supports us. Letting outsiders into the group is a rare occurrence, because we never know if they will throw off the dynamic. Humans have an automatic guard that goes up when meeting new people. Whether this is a fear of the unknown, or a fear of rejection or humiliation, or something else, seldom does anyone meet someone and automatically spill their entire life story. Even with people we have known and consider ourselves close to, it is still a big deal to open up and share our world with someone else. However, this is the only way to build true connections: through trust. Without trust, relationships of any kind are faulty.
Consider yourself part of your own breakfast club. Look around yourself while you are at work, and remember that everyone has a "thing". Try to build a connection with someone that you wouldn't have build before. Find something that you have in common with someone else, or ask how someone is genuinely doing. We never know how events or words effect other people. A simple friendship falling out could be over and done for you, but for the other person it could still be devastating Work on forgiving those that have done you wrong, and seeking forgiveness from those who hold any feelings of resentment towards you. Don't judge people based on the clothes they wear, or their weight, or their hair, or their first impression, but try to take the time to really get to know someone that you might not have if you hadn't read this post. Even if you have negative thoughts towards someone, replace them with positive thoughts. Find something good about that person that you can focus on, and before you know it, positivity will be in the front of your mind. This sounds cheesy, but try it for a few days and we guarantee you that you will feel happier and freer.
"We're all pretty bizarre. Some of us are just better at hiding it, that's all." -Andrew, The Breakfast Club
Yours truly,
Kylie and Catherine
We notice trends form this movie in our lives. At our school, pretty much everyone is nice to everyone else, but depending on the grade, you can definitely pick out the "cool kids", or the "nerds", or the "theater geeks" or "jocks". The two of us pretty much span the board and are friends with everyone, from fifth graders to middle school teachers. Like in the movie, sometimes it is really hard for people to break out of their groups and get to know other people. Our groups make us feel safe. We support our group, and our group supports us. Letting outsiders into the group is a rare occurrence, because we never know if they will throw off the dynamic. Humans have an automatic guard that goes up when meeting new people. Whether this is a fear of the unknown, or a fear of rejection or humiliation, or something else, seldom does anyone meet someone and automatically spill their entire life story. Even with people we have known and consider ourselves close to, it is still a big deal to open up and share our world with someone else. However, this is the only way to build true connections: through trust. Without trust, relationships of any kind are faulty.
Consider yourself part of your own breakfast club. Look around yourself while you are at work, and remember that everyone has a "thing". Try to build a connection with someone that you wouldn't have build before. Find something that you have in common with someone else, or ask how someone is genuinely doing. We never know how events or words effect other people. A simple friendship falling out could be over and done for you, but for the other person it could still be devastating Work on forgiving those that have done you wrong, and seeking forgiveness from those who hold any feelings of resentment towards you. Don't judge people based on the clothes they wear, or their weight, or their hair, or their first impression, but try to take the time to really get to know someone that you might not have if you hadn't read this post. Even if you have negative thoughts towards someone, replace them with positive thoughts. Find something good about that person that you can focus on, and before you know it, positivity will be in the front of your mind. This sounds cheesy, but try it for a few days and we guarantee you that you will feel happier and freer.
"We're all pretty bizarre. Some of us are just better at hiding it, that's all." -Andrew, The Breakfast Club
Yours truly,
Kylie and Catherine
Great post my friend!
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